(if I can figure out how it works)

seems like this is a new way to get some basic info across without having to fight mobile to get to the about page so I’ll probably edit that too

anyway im moss, 30, they/them or xe/xem I guess? I’m trying some stuff out. US-based so I’m probably going to be pretty america-centric, sorry in advance to every other country

i’ve done my time in the tumblr wars and also now i’m on meds so i have no need to gain brain chemicals by being vicious to people online, so just like, don’t.

 i believe in descriptive language rather than prescriptive and i think terfs are fuckin dumb. i think people can change and also be held accountable, and i think we probably shouldnt build parasocial relationships with people we haven’t actually had a conversation with. 

UH what else. i dunno. I’m kind of shit at tagging, so like genuinely if you do need something tagged, you can ask, but odds aren’t great for 100% accuracy. 

you’re probably not going to enjoy following me if you enjoy a. any sort of cohesive post schedule, b. rigid belief systems, or c. picking fights online

all things subject to change without warning

rizses-lecso:

David Shrigley, This huge cat (2022)

lmaonade:

i make sure togive all my adhd friends clear drinking glasses because if there’s one consistency i’ve noticed with these fuckers is if they cant see that a vessel is empty they will continue to put it to their mouth and try to take a drink of nothing

longdogsinc:

gallusrostromegalus:

libraford:

It was kind of interesting to me that out of all the people in our training group, the ones that were the quickest to form social bonds were the people from way out in the country and the city people just kind of quietly kept to themselves.

But I was definitely accepted as one of the bumpkins.

Oh! This is actually an example of Rural vs Urban manners.

In rural/less densely populated areas, the polite thing is to offer people your time and social energy which is why country people will talk your ear off at the slightest acquaintence- it’s kind of lonely when you have to make an effort to see people, so you Make An Effort ™

In Urban/Densely populated areas, you’re meeting people whether you want to or not, because you are physically close to each other constantly. So the Polite Thing there is to kind of ignore other people and keep strictly to business, so you’re not imposing upon thier (probably already drained) soical spoons.

The city folks will warm right up to you once they get to know you well enough to know that talking to you won’t piss you off.

I grew up rural and live in the SF Bay Area now, and this is exactly how it is.

Appropriate city behavior is about *efficiency*, creating the least friction possible in every interaction because everyone has somewhere to be and is trying to pretend they don’t have strangers in their personal bubble *all day long*.

In SF, chatting with the bank teller a second longer than necessary is rude AF because there are 10 people in line and the teller is running behind and you are inconviencing *everyone*. They will deal with 1000 customers today and they genuinely don’t have it in them to form a friendly relationship with you.

In the little forest where I grew up you could stop your car in the middle of a one lane street to chat up a friend on the sidewalk. Any other cars would just go around you. There wasn’t much traffic, it was fine. If you’re one of 50 people the bank teller is gonna see today and there’s no line, it’s actually nice to ask how their day has been and commiserate about the roadwork at the single downtown traffic light.

City & country folks are operating under very different pressures and both are “right”, but it can be hard for city people to remember how to just…shoot the shit with strangers.

i have also heard that there’s a politeness conflict between warm and cold populations regarding lateness! in cold populations you want to be quick because in the winter it could legitimately be a life and death situation

in warm populations, going slowly and taking your time is practically a survival mechanism because of the heat

queersatanic:

queersatanic:

queersatanic:

We know you want to burn down capitalism.

But for today, just don’t answer your boss’s call off the clock.

We know you believe in ACAB and think they all should get the wall.

But for today, just don’t call 9-1-1 on the guy screaming outside of your apartment.

The memes are fun. The memes are aspirational and keep us reaching for the horizon.

But look down, too, at what actually is.

Endure pains now—suffer the inconveniences now—knowing that they likely involve unpleasantness.

The Revolution™ is fun to imagine and involves no pain. But the real world does involve pain, and it’s necessary to exercise the muscles needed for future work and opportunities.

prokopetz:

prokopetz:

I’m usually pretty flexible about player character backgrounds, but I draw the line at “is secretly Rasputin”. If your character is or has ever been Rasputin, they are not welcome at this table.

@bluebandedagate replied:

is this from experience

I have had a player try to sneak a secret Rasputin into one of my games on three unconnected occasions.

kindnessoverperfection:

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I’m screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it’s factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it’s harmful, and the changes I’d like to see. But to keep this concise, I’ll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent “safe” spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I’m willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it’s so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I’m worthless and unlovable, like there’s something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it’s so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

• Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I’m lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word “narcissist” to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil “people with narcissistic personality disorder” are. (Seriously, you don’t know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you’d hate them if you knew.)
• Trying to look up “mental health positivity for people with npd”, “mental health positivity cluster bs”, only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.
• Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.
• Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they’re supposed to be helping!) that there’s no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.
• Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I’m not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.
• Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I’m scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word “narcissist” as a synonym for “abusive”.

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! “Hey, I’m autistic.” “Oh… my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn’t understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you’re self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you’re okay I guess, maybe.” …See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it’s trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

Keep reading

huffylemon:

cartoonchaos:

shoutout to michael from the good place for being a fanciful powerful silly childish demon character in the body of an untumblrsexifiable goofy old man. shoutout to him and janet for at every turn implying the concept of a potential love interest would be ridiculous and even unthinkable. shoutout to making up the concept of soulmates as a torture method because you think it’s stupid. shoutout to “kissing is disgusting, you’re just mashing your food holes together. that’s not what they’re for.” shoutout to forgiving the evil in your nature only to realize there is no evil or nature and your change is your own. shoutout to “the reason is friends.” shoutout to all the “humans are horny overcomplicated flesh puppets” characters that longed so desperately for that flesh and those complications, and shoutout to the one that made it. shoutout to the honorary human that could.

truestoriesaboutme:

Fox Mulder is such an amazing character, though, because on paper, he sucks: Wiseass federal agent with a porn addiction who is obsessed with conspiracy theories, thinks he’s the smartest guy in every room that he’s in, and is just hot enough to be dangerous.

But David Duchovny plays him with such dumb, gleeful kid energy that suddenly it all just…works. You can’t hate him. Look at him!

He’s got nonthreatening male sexuality of a Disney prince in the 90s. You look at him and think Look at this hot idiot, He’s trying his best. All he wants to do is get laid, infodump to his girlfriend, and meet a real life dracula. He’s like if you turned an orange male cat into a human. He definitely owns an album of Halloween sound effects. He’s six feet tall but he’s just a little guy.

opens-up-4-nobody:

The x-files jersey devil picture is so precious to me

greychan:

teaboot:

4x01:

4x01:

4x01:

4x01:

just painted an onion on a cutting board and i think it’s the peak of my artistic career

look at her…

she gets stronger!

the full painting is finally complete!

This is giving me emotions that I myself do not fully understand

Maybe you’re just tearing up because someone has been cutting onions

livebloggingmydescentintomadness:

ragingpunsexual:

I love the idea of Spock being super queer, highly expressive and very emotional from a Vulcan view point. Like…

What humans see:

Originally posted by asysto-le

What Vulcans see:

Originally posted by 9116

i love how this implies that gritty is how vulcans see jim

maestrosmassacre:

we need a fictional wheelchair user who does all the unrealistic bullshit cars and motorcycles do in fiction. i wanna see a wheelchair do the akira slide. i need a high speed chase with a nitro-fuelled wheelchair where the character out-maneuvers cop cars. does anyone understand me